Hey Radiant Soul,
When I was young, I’d overhear my mom chatting with her girlfriends about couples they knew who were divorcing. Whenever someone cheated, my salt-of-the-earth mom, who has zero patience for BS, would say, “Looks like someone slipped on a banana peel.” We all know exactly what mom meant—it’s hilarious, relatable, and so profoundly human.
Yet, isn’t that precisely how we sometimes frame affairs—as if infidelity just accidentally happens, like you’re casually strolling and—oops!—suddenly naked and tangled up with someone who’s not your spouse. Ridiculous, right?
As someone who admittedly “slipped on a banana peel” in my younger, wilder days (and deeply regrets the hurt caused), and as someone who’s also been wounded by a chronic cheater, I understand the depth and complexity behind such choices. Cheating isn’t about sex. It’s about desperately chasing a feeling you’ve lost or something that promises to fill an emptiness, spark aliveness, or shake up a flatlined relationship. But here’s the brutal truth: the cost almost always outweighs the fleeting thrill.
And as we head into spring, we can feel ourselves awakening within, sensing that restless yearning for excitement and renewal. But here’s a way to experience your own inner spring without burning your life down with an affair.
Because, let’s face it—there is no scenario where your partner doesn’t eventually find out. Even if you’re among the rare few who manage to hide it, the inner turmoil, guilt, shame, and shadow you carry is crushing, silently poisoning your spirit from within.
Imagine this: You’re at Burning Man, surrounded by dramatic art, electrifying music, radical freedom, intense connection, and a bit too much glitter. I’ve experienced this cinematic, soul-shaking event multiple times. People often call it “Heaven on Earth,” and every year some folks get so swept up in the intoxicating intensity they “Bring Home the Burn,” trying to impose a lifestyle or societal structure from that magical week in the Black Rock Desert onto their life at home. But what works beautifully for seven days rarely aligns with your everyday marriage or family structure. It’s like setting your house on fire just because the lights flickered briefly.
Trust me, hormones and fantasies are powerful—I get it. My husband Scott and I have navigated two decades of marriage by openly acknowledging that attraction to others is natural and normal. We’re honest about our shadow feelings: not feeling enough, feeling broken, lonely, unlovable, insecure, unsafe. Yet our foundation is clear: we never stay together out of obligation. Instead, we continually choose each other through conscious commitment and growth.
Maybe the spark you’re feeling isn’t even sexual. Perhaps it’s meant to awaken something deeper within you—a soul connection, a recognition of unmet needs, or hidden truths. Before you burn your entire life to the ground for a roll in the hay, ask yourself: “What am I really missing here? What do I truly need?” Because it’s rarely as simple as sex.
And here’s the uncomfortable yet liberating truth—the only person capable of genuinely fulfilling your unmet needs is… you.
So before you slip on a banana peel, consider reigniting your fire with integrity:
- Adventure: Try ecstatic dance, rock climbing, or invigorating hikes to feel truly alive.
- Creativity: Paint passionately, journal honestly, or explore improv to reclaim hidden parts of yourself.
- Mindfulness: Use meditation and breathwork to reconnect deeply with your inner peace and clarity.
- Thrill-Seeking: Go skydiving or surfing—ignite adrenaline without compromising your integrity.
- Community: Volunteer, mentor, or join group activities—feel genuine validation through authentic human connection.
These activities remind you that your spark is alive, just temporarily buried under daily responsibilities and routines.
If you’re feeling tempted or uncertain about your relationship and unsure how to navigate this inner turmoil, I’m here. Think of me as your straight-talking sister-guide who’ll walk beside you through this confusion, helping you regain clarity, alignment, and purpose.
You deserve passion, honesty, and authentic joy—not the wreckage of impulsive choices.
Ready to transform temptation into true personal growth?
Schedule your discovery call here
With fierce love, clarity, and no judgment,
Nora, Madame Morph
